Lord Change Me: The Power of Biblical Friendship

Intro: Last message in this series (Lord Change Me).

1A) Lasting change requires Biblical friendship.

Proverbs 12:26
People who change are surrounded by Biblical caring friends.

26 One who is righteous is a guide to his neighbor, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.

  • Abraham had Sarah and Lot
  • Moses had Aaron and Jethro
  • Joshua had Caleb
  • Ruth had Naomi and Boaz
  • Ester had Mordecai
  • Paul had Barnabas, Silas, Timothy
  • Jesus had 70, 12 and 3
  • Peter had John

Jesus sent them out two by two.

We are not supposed to be doing this alone.  We need our Christian family.

How many of our friends are friends of the flesh cultivating in you things that are against God.

2A) A Biblical friend holds you up when you stumble.

1 Samuel 23:16-18 ESV
16 And Jonathan, Saul’s son, rose and went to David at Horesh, and strengthened his hand in God. 17 And he said to him, “Do not fear, for the hand of Saul my father shall not find you. You shall be king over Israel, and I shall be next to you. Saul my father also knows this.” 18 And the two of them made a covenant before the LORD. David remained at Horesh, and Jonathan went home.

1b) Notice presence. v. 16a – Jonathan, Saul’s son, rose and went to David.

Jonathan had everything to lose.  He was risking his own position…if his father killed David Jonathan would be king.  There was no way Jonathan was going to let his friend down.  If you don’t know what to do, know that presence is never wrong…

2b) Notice prayer. v. 16b – and strengthened his hand in God.

Presence has to be more than just being there.  Jonathan helped to strengthen David’s hand in God.  Pastor James believes Jonathan prayed for David. Don’t just make small talk.  You have to pray for the person – right now!

3b) Notice protection. v. 17 – And he said to him, “Do not fear, for the hand of Saul my father shall not find you. You shall be king over Israel, and I shall be next to you. Saul my father also knows this.” Do not “counsel to the flesh”. Don’t flame the issue with worldly advice and insight the issue.

Loyalty – when we stumble we need friends that protect us with fierce loyalty.  Are you a loyal friend? Focus on being a loyal friend to someone – not do I have a loyal friend.

4b) Notice promise. v. 18 – And the two of them made a covenant before the Lord. Be committed to the person, not to the person that you think they are.  Don’t be committed to what a person does for you.

Friendships should be verbalized

ATC (Absolute Total Commitment) You will never suffer by my hand.  I will never say or do anything, knowingly, against you.

 Key ingredient: Love Proverbs 17:17 – A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

3A) A Biblical friend holds you down when you stray.

Just when David got comfortable he got in trouble.  That’s what the enemy does; he gets you alone where you can be tempted.

(2 Samuel 12: 1-15)
1 And the LORD sent Nathan to David. He came to him and said to him, “There were two men in a certain city, the one rich and the other poor. 2 The rich man had very many flocks and herds, 3 but the poor man had nothing but one little ewe lamb, which he had bought. And he brought it up, and it grew up with him and with his children. It used to eat of his morsel and drink from his cup and lie in his arms, and it was like a daughter to him. 4 Now there came a traveler to the rich man, and he was unwilling to take one of his own flock or herd to prepare for the guest who had come to him, but he took the poor man’s lamb and prepared it for the man who had come to him.” 5 Then David’s anger was greatly kindled against the man, and he said to Nathan, “As the LORD lives, the man who has done this deserves to die, 6 and he shall restore the lamb fourfold, because he did this thing, and because he had no pity.” 7 Nathan said to David, “You are the man! Thus says the LORD, the God of Israel, ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you out of the hand of Saul. 8 And I gave you your master’s house and your master’s wives into your arms and gave you the house of Israel and of Judah. And if this were too little, I would add to you as much more. 9 Why have you despised the word of the LORD, to do what is evil in his sight? You have struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and have taken his wife to be your wife and have killed him with the sword of the Ammonites. 10 Now therefore the sword shall never depart from your house, because you have despised me and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife.’ 11 Thus says the LORD, ‘Behold, I will raise up evil against you out of your own house. And I will take your wives before your eyes and give them to your neighbor, and he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this sun. 12 For you did it secretly, but I will do this thing before all Israel and before the sun.’” 13 David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.” And Nathan said to David, “The LORD also has put away your sin; you shall not die. 14 Nevertheless, because by this deed you have utterly scorned the LORD, the child who is born to you shall die.” 15 Then Nathan went to his house. David’s Child Dies And the LORD afflicted the child that Uriah’s wife bore to David, and he became sick.

Verse 7 is the moment of Biblical friendship. Nathan risked it all to confront the king.  That is what a true friend does.  Psalm 51 flowed from a Biblical friend that was willing to hold David down

Everyone needs someone who will look into your eyes and say you are neglecting you own wife.  You want to be xxxxx but you can’t even xxxx.

Key Ingredient: Truthall love but no truth is hypocrisy and all truth but no love is brutality. The power is in the Balance

4A) Change that lasts:

  • Choose a friend committed to change – stop picking friends that want to play.  Stop picking friends on infinities but choose friends on a passion for the same priorities. Forge a friendship with someone of the same sex that can help you become a better person.
  • Review Biblical pattern for change
  • Commit to mutual accountability for change – how are you doing with _________?

God wants to work through us to help each other live Biblically.

 

Lord Change Me: The Power Source

Sermon by James MacDonald of Harvest Bible Chapel on November 20th 2011

1A) The exhausting life. – The desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out.  This is not God’s desire.

Pastor James said that this message may be the single most important breakthrough he’s had.

For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. (Romans 7:15-19 ESV)

I do not have the ability to change without God.

Where does the Christian power come from?  Pastor James said that this book on that topic by Charles Price changed his life -For Real.

2A) The exchanged life.

Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin. (Romans 7:24, 25 ESV)

The power for the Christian life is not you.  It is Christ in you.  It’s about resignation and surrender to let Jesus work through you.

Jesus Christ is alive right now. He is here right now.  It has never been His intent to stand off to the side and watch us live our life.  Christ died for me and wants to live through me.

Pastor James read and talked about this book by W. Ian Thomas, The Saving Life of Christ

Other verses on the topic:

  • Galatians 2:20
  • 2 Corinthians 4:11 – wow!
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:14-24 look at verse 24 to see who will do it!
  • Romans 5:10

3A) The empowered life.

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. For God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh, could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit. For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace. For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot. Those who are in the flesh cannot please God. You, however, are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact the Spirit of God dwells in you. Anyone who does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to him. But if Christ is in you, although the body is dead because of sin, the Spirit is life because of righteousness. If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who dwells in you. So then, brothers, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. (Romans 8:1-13 ESV)

1b) Spirit filling defined. – Ephesians 5:18 is the pinnacle of new testament teaching on the filling of the Holy Spirit. Be filled with the Holy Spirit. To be overcome by a power greater than your own. To be controlled by. It’s not talking about having a little bit. Its saying “be filled”.

 2b) Spirit filling analyzed. – At conversion we get all of the Holy Spirit.  The question we need to ask is-does the Holy Spirit have all of me? One baptism, many fillings.

3b) Spirit filling illustrated. – Ephesians 5:18 says to not be filled with drunkenness but with the Holy Spirit.  When you are drunk, you have no control over your tongue, body or emotions.

4A) Proof of the Holy Spirit.

1b) Leading. v. 14 – The Holy Spirit will and does lead you.  You have to let it.

2b) Confidence. v. 15a – One of the truest indications of living life in the flesh is fear.  Living life in the Spirit, you will have confidence in your salvation and your place in God’s kingdom.

3b) Intimacy. v. 15b – God is our Abba Father – this is especially true for men as men need to look to the Father for replenishment.

4b) Security. v. 16 – It’s the job of the Holy Spirit to confirm that you are part of God’s family.  When you sin or grieve the Holy Spirit you are deadening yourself to the Spirit’s voice.  If you repeatedly do this you will eventually silence the Spirit’s prompting.

 5b) Identify. v.17 – What does God have in store for you as a believer?

5A) Hindrances to Spirit filling.

1b) Grieving the Holy Spirit. Doing things we shouldn’t – the spirit has to hear everything you say.  See everything you look at.  Participate in what you do.

And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. (Ephesians 4:30 ESV)

2b) Quenching the Holy Spirit. Not doing things we should.

Do not quench the Spirit. (1 Thessalonians 5:19 ESV)

6A) How to be filled with the Spirit.

1b) Confess. 1 John 1:9 – Confess your sins

 2b) Ask. Luke 11:9-13 – Lord will you fill me with the Holy Spirit and drive out the darkness and doubt.  Do for me what I cannot do. Bring glory to yourself where I cannot.

3b) Believe.  Mark 11:24 - Believe.

Conclusion:

Moment by moment just lead me God.

Ok now get off of the flesh on “auto-pilot”.

Alcohol and Drunk Driving – A High Cost

So when I woke up this morning, I had no idea I was going to write about drunk driving; but everything changed when I saw some friends on Facebook with drinks in their hands and then started to read some of the blogs I’m signed up with.  One, the Phoenix Real  Estate Guy, had posted on  his experience with drinking and driving when someone he knew, 16 year old Kelly Tracey, was killed a couple of years ago.

The wave of frustration over the pointless deaths of so many people got to me and I needed to do a little research on the subject.

Why do so many people drive after they have been drinking?  Why does society put up with it?  Why is such a destructive drug so widely desired and given such a prominent place in our lives? Why is it socially acceptable to be intoxicated – to lose your inhibitions that protect you and cause you do to things that are naturally destructive?

Alcohol Facts:

  • Alcohol is bad for your health
  • This year, it is estimated that 10,800 people will die in a drunk driving crash
  • Alcohol destroys families
  • Every minute there is one person that is injured by alcohol related crashes
  • Alcohol directly causes death
  • Over 30% of all accidents involve alcohol
  • Alcohol changes your perception
  • One in three 8th graders drinks alcohol
  • Alcohol alters your thinking

I suggest that if you are reading this article, then change must start with you – whether you drink or not, the odds are 1 in 3 that you will be affected by a drunk driver in some way.

What you can do…

  1. Watch the video below – Warning: it is graphic with some disturbing images.  It is well worth your time and by far the best video I have seen on the subject
  2. Share this post with your friends by using your social media outlets
  3. Resolve to never drive with alcohol in your system
  4. Become more aware of the negative effects alcohol has on your health and family

Statistics and information were provided by:

  • The Century Council
  • MADD
  • National Highway Traffic Safety Association

 

Character Building 101 – Putting God First

Questions we must ask ourselves…am I giving God the priority in my day?  Am I starting my day (first fruits) with God by reading His Word – the Bible?  What are my goals for each day?  Am I seeking God’s kingdom and His righteousness in my life?  Do I design time with God like I do family, work and play?

Matthew 6:33
33But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

God promises that if you seek Him first, food, shelter and clothing will be provided to you; thus eliminating the need or the excuse to place work or the idea of working to survive ahead of seeking God first.  If our basic needs will be taken care of, what would be our reasoning for placing our priority for day to day living not on Him?  It would simply be to put our own personal desires for prosperity, pleasure and authority ahead of God…thus we are not putting God first.

This is difficult on a daily basis, especially when first starting, since most of us have grown up (especially in the American culture) thinking of me, me, me.  For me, I know that scheduling time on my calendar first thing in the morning and being consistent with it is the only way to overcome years of habit.

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If we are honest with ourselves, we would say that the reason God is not placed first in our lives is because we have other priorities.  These priorities are not the same as God’s priorities for our life.  When I look at my priorities, it is easy for me to say they are based on providing for my family and doing the right thing.  In reality, if I was just trying to provide for my family, my day would look remarkably different.  My time, emotion and energy spent with my family would be just as intentional (love that word from my good friend Pastor Joe LaCognata) as it was in the time, emotion and energy I place in work and personal pleasure.

As people, we tend to be goal or outcome oriented; we strive for things or an outcome we desire.  Things like wealth, status, familiarity and comfort.  Putting God first would necessitate that we change what we strive for and go after things that are of God’s kingdom; thus, not what we consider our treasures.

Matthew 6:19-21
19Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, 20 but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

When we attempt to do this, it feels like a war in some ways.  Most of us would acknowledge that we want to put God first; however, it is a struggle to do so as we often do that which we do not want to do.  I have come to love this battle, as for me it is concrete proof of the war that wages inside of me; that of my spirit which desires God, and that of my flesh which desires self or sin. I am so grateful for Paul’s words in the book of Romans 7 that describes this battle in detail.

Romans 7:14-20
14For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am of the flesh, sold under sin. 15For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. 16Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. 17So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. 18For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. 20Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me.

There is a clear reason for this battle and it comes from the two natures that live inside us. It is not possible to serve or follow both.

Matthew 6:24
24No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.

The idea of putting God first means that nothing comes before Him.  For me, and I believe most people agree, that means giving God the first part of my day.  I look at it as the first fruits of each day – after all, every day is really a gift from God.

Life’s Instruction Manual

Life's Instruction Manual

Do you read the instruction manual before using your new toy or setting up what you just bought?  Or perhaps you just dive in and see how it goes.  If you get stuck, then maybe, as a last resort, you’ll find the instructions, assuming you haven’t tossed them out.

Have you ever wished that life came with an instruction manual? Well if you did, there is good news; we have one.  In fact, it covers every facet of life, and if followed guarantees a better, more enjoyable and peaceful life.

Why am I writing this post?  Well, it’s quite simple really; I’m watching something happen with my kids as it relates to reading instructions.  For whatever reason, I’ve always been one of those that has to read the instructions before setting something up.  Since my kids were born, the first thing we do is read the instructions.  At first it was a little hard for them as they wanted to tear right in, but after time, they began to see the benefit.  Things worked the first time.  They knew all of the features of the toy.  They didn’t miss out on anything.  They were, in fact, happier, and enjoyed whatever it was much more.

Here’s where I may loose some of you, as I’m about to bring up a word that turns many people off, so let me just ask you to keep reading till the end as there is a point in it for you. Before my oldest could speak, I’ve called God’s Bible, “Life’s Instruction Manual”.  They see mom and dad reading it and talking about it.  My kids have heard it as part of their vocabulary, and now are thinking of it as a resource, at least the oldest two are (the younger two haven’t started to read yet).  The Bible speaks a lot about wisdom and understanding, what it is and how to get it.  My kids picked up on that part of the “instruction book” and talk a lot about what they do and if it is wise or not.  Another example is when my oldest was scared and couldn’t sleep because of seeing something about earthquakes, she turned to the Bible and found peace.  They are also understanding that true love is not a feeling but a set of actions that you choose to do.  By making those choices you get the feeling.  There are many, many more examples that I could give you, but you get the idea.

As an adult, I am still amazed by how much about life is contained in the Bible. From relationships and marriage to creating a life plan, developing a successful career, how to handle money, even how to resolve conflicts between two friends.  The Bible is a complete instruction manual for successful living; ironically, even for those that don’t believe it was written by God.  What did I just say?  You heard me correctly, you don’t even have to believe that the Bible was the inspired writing of God to enjoy some of the benefits contained in the book. Truth is truth right? Or to put it another way, the laws of life and nature keep working even if you don’t believe in them, and that my friends is a big part of what the Bible is; a Book about how life and nature works.  Of course for the believer it’s also a Book about how life begins, ends and a possibility of an eternal future.  Both for adults and kids…

Mosque At Ground Zero

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Sometimes you come across someone that says everything you want to say on a particular subject.  Pat Condell posted just such a piece on Jihad Watch titled, “Pat Condell on Ground Zero mosque: ‘Is it possible to be astonished, but not surprised?’”.  I definitely suggest that you watch the video.

I would like to go on record and say I am against the mosque being built, and I am embarrassed at the comments of President Obama.   I did not vote for him and cannot wait for his removal from office, either by impeachment or on November 6, 2012.

More than 3000 men, women and children died on September 11, 2001 at the hands of Muslim terrorists.  For the Muslim extremist and the Muslim religion, 911 signifies perhaps their greatest achievement against freedom and democracy; the mosque would simply be their marker of their achievement into eternity.  It would also signify another disgraceful turning point for America.

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For I am dying

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For I am dying

Oh, if only I could return to the way that I was
where I was born from tyranny

I was created from one faith
and for the freedom of that faith

Now I am tired,
I have forgotten from where I have come
Nay, I seem to not even care from where I have come

But only if I could return to the days from afar
where freedom was true and faith was in the “I Am”

I remember the days when food was plenty, people were strong, and we walked with the Creator
Who gave us all things and wrapped us in His protection

But I have grown to not need the Creator
because I have decided I am better

For truth is no longer important and I have no need for faith,
I have no need for freedom

I have sold it all for gold and power and desire
I just want what I want as I die a slow death

I was once a Great, as proud as the eagle
I have sold it for the now, and tomorrow is no more

Should I get your pity if I cry out,
You that I have mocked?
But I have forgotten to Whom I should call

Perhaps I’ll just lie down and sleep and wait for nothing
My time may be done
since I gave it all up

by Richard M Hartian
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Voting and The Abortion Barometer

Vote SmartWant to know how to vote in the coming elections? If you are like most people these days, knowing how to vote is a challenge…deep down you want men and women of integrity to hold our elected offices; the problem is, with so many issues and creative ways politicians define their positions, it’s easy to get lost as to which way to vote. The issue of abortion, as odd as it sounds, can make voting quite clear and can provide you with insights on how to vote…let me explain.

Wrapped in a person’s view of abortion is not only how they will vote on the sanctity of life, but also how they will represent their constituents (that is, how they will represent you and I) in government, how they conduct themselves in private, whether they act in our interest or their own, how they will vote on financial concerns, such as taxes and spending, how they will vote concerning the agendas of special interest groups, and so on…lets look at this a bit more deeply…

First, let’s be honest about abortion. Abortion is the deliberate taking of another person’s life. The unborn child is of no other kind than human kind. That makes the embryo, or any other term used to define it, human. Location does not determine what something is. It is what it is. Just because an unborn child is in its mother’s womb does not cause it to be part of the mother any more than putting a pie in the oven makes the pie part of the oven. Finally, the unborn child in any state from conception to birth is alive (the cells, which are human, are not dead). Simply because the unborn child needs the safety of the mother’s womb to grow and survive in the few months after conception, does not make the unborn child not human or not alive; it means its life depends on the mother for survival. This dependency is similar to a child in their first years of life or a patient in a hospital that needs treatment to survive. Neither of these latter examples calls for a legal precedent allowing for the taking of life. In short, the unborn child is human, alive and dependant.

When we vote for someone in office, we want them to represent us in a way that we are unable or incapable of doing ourselves. We expect our elected officials to have moral character in both public and private life. If a man will cheat on his wife, he will cheat on his country. The existence of human kind depends upon its leaders, whether the President of the United States or a county board official, regardless of the level of office, to have integrity and represent the strong and the weak. If a man in office does not value the unborn child, or worse, considers it not worthy of protection, so much more that man will not value your life or those in your family. The value of human life is utmost to the pursuit of individual liberty and justice for all, for it is only those that value all of human life that will pursue the cause of individual liberty and justice for all. If you are old and worry about medical care, if you are African-American, Hispanic, or another minority concerned about equal opportunity, if you are religious and desire freedom to worship, and if you are not yet born and desire simply a chance at life, you must be represented by someone that values life, and thus must vote for someone that protects life.

Let’s connect a couple of dots…a pro-abortion stance or position is a choice for one thing; the choice for self over others. The thought is really “I am more important than anything and anyone”. Ending the life of an un-born child is ok because it gets me what I want – freedom from the responsibility of my actions or, as a politician, power and votes. All one needs to do is see what a late term or partial birth abortion (the baby is in the process of being born and is killed before full delivery) looks like to see what value the pro-abortion politician places on human life. An elected official that is pro-abortion is one that has different categories for life, or perhaps better said, places different value on various stages of human life – a scary thought indeed if you are yet unborn, elderly, a member of a minority, a person of religious beliefs, or just an ordinary citizen. If even one of our elected officials places his value or personal convenience over the lives of the people he/she represents, as a people we have lost hope in being represented fairly because each decision made will not be for the people’s benefit but for the benefit of the elected official -whatever is more expedient to accomplish their needs and desire. Whether it is re-election, more power, or greater tax dollars to fund projects, an official who places them self over others will enact legislation that accomplishes what is best for themselves or their special interest, and not for the public.

The correlation between the importance, or lack of importance, that one places on the value of all stages of human life can not be overstated. Once you cross the line and decide that some stages or kinds of human life are not worth protecting, you have made a decision that some human life is dispensable.  Whatever negatively affects your ability to accomplish your goals becomes expendable…in the case of abortion, money, votes and power are offered or exchanged for the “right” to take life. Are the elderly and medically challenged next if those that are in power deem the cost of care too expensive? When people of power are willing to compromise life for money, power or votes, anything and everything becomes possible. Certainly this is not how to ensure the long term viability of our country.

So here’s how this helps with voting. One of the essential components needed to prevent societal decay is the protection of life. Not valuing all human life equally and regarding it worthy of protection permits moral variations that will always negatively affect the weakest or most disadvantaged persons. It is imperative that we are represented in government by men and women that will protect those that need protection as an equal to those that do not. If the pro-abortion candidate does not value the unborn child, they do not value those that need the most protection. If you do not protect those that need the most protection, you do not stand for individual liberty and justice for all. If you do not stand for justice for all, you stand for justice for some, and not for others. Since you stand for justice for some and not for others, you cannot and should not be permitted to hold office where your responsibility is to govern all people equally.

Voting is a privilege and carries great responsibility. When we vote, we are aligning ourselves to the person we are voting for and to their way of thinking. May we all vote for men and women that will preserve life, govern for the people, and ensure that the government and laws that we leave to our children guarantee them the same rights and freedoms that we enjoyed when we born. Happy Voting…

Richard M Hartian
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