March 17-18, 2012
Intro
Philemon 1:8-22
There will be a new Harvest Campus launching on the North Shore (7th Campus) on Easter Sunday. For details, go to harvestbiblechapel.org/northshore.
Paul was a relational genius. Many times our problems are relational.
We believe the Holy Spirit has to help us understand God’s word.
Philemon is a prison epistle. Jesus had gone back to the Father about 30 years ago.
The letter was written to a wealthy man, named Philemon, about another brother, Onesimus.
The Bible does not condone slavery, however it does regulate it. It was prevalent during this time.
Pastor James asked us to write down two names…people we are on good terms with, but the two of them are not. Why do we not want to be active about getting them back together (and risk our own friendships)? Answer – Because I’m a selfish person.
How to Bring People Together
1A) Make it an appeal instead of a requirement. Philemon 1:8-9
8 Accordingly, though I am bold enough in Christ to command you to do what is required, 9 yet for love’s sake I prefer to appeal to you-I, Paul, an old man and now a prisoner also for Christ Jesus-
The godly leader does not exercise his authority or leadership. There is something more than your title or position; it is love.
All truth and no love is brutality. Pastor James noted that he has always been a truth person and God is really working on him to be more of a grace person.
2A) Start with the more wounded person. Philemon 1:10
I appeal to you for my child, Onesimus, whose father I became in my imprisonment.
If this was a small thing, Paul would not have written this letter. Paul was in prison.
Paul started with the most wounded person. So should we.
Onesimus must have run into Paul and was saved.
3A) Elevate the person over the issue. Philemon 1:10
I appeal to you for my child, Onesimus, whose father I became in my imprisonment.
Relationships sever over issues. The problem comes when we have an issue that becomes so big is overshadows the person.
Reconciliation does not solve the issue it bridges it.
4A) Focus on the present without negating the past. Philemon 1:11
(Formerly he was useless to you, but now he is indeed useful to you and to me.)
Onesimus’ name means useful or profitable.
One of the best things you can do for a new person is to put them on a new page.
Never are we more like God than when we take a person that has hurt us and release them from it so that a relationship can continue and grow.
5A) Paint the picture of a better future. Philemon 1:12-16
12 I am sending him back to you, sending my very heart. 13 I would have been glad to keep him with me, in order that he might serve me on your behalf during my imprisonment for the gospel, 14 but I preferred to do nothing without your consent in order that your goodness might not be by compulsion but of your own accord. 15 For this perhaps is why he was parted from you for a while, that you might have him back forever, 16 no longer as a slave but more than a slave, as a beloved brother-especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord.
Wounded people can’t see a future…show them how great the future can be.
It’s not God’s will that any Christians end up with a relationship in the ditch
It doesn’t always end up great, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try.
6A) Pay what you can as leverage to reconcile. Philemon 1:17-20
17 So if you consider me your partner, receive him as you would receive me. 18 If he has wronged you at all, or owes you anything, charge that to my account. 19 I, Paul, write this with my own hand: I will repay it-to say nothing of your owing me even your own self. 20 Yes, brother, I want some benefit from you in the Lord. Refresh my heart in Christ.
Paul is leveraging what he has - Am I your friend. Do you love me? Then we are going to meet.
Paul wrote – “If he has wronged you at all, or owes you anything, charge that to my account.” — That’s the Gospel.
Where would you be without me – Paul is cashing in all that he can. Are we willing to put it all on the line?
7A) Express your intent to follow through and do it. Philemon 1:21-22
21 Confident of your obedience, I write to you, knowing that you will do even more than I say. 22 At the same time, prepare a guest room for me, for I am hoping that through your prayers I will be graciously given to you.
As best as Paul could he said I’m coming to see that you follow through with it.
Conclusion
If you’re on good terms with two people that aren’t on good terms with each other, cash in all your chips and get after it. If they don’t work it out, stay on the person that is resisting…don’t give up.







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